Saturday, August 29, 2020

I Have Fat.


I'm not fat. I have fat. It's not me, it's extra me. It's not who or what I am. It doesn't define me. It doesn't show you my heart, my history, my intelligence, my kindness, integrity, compassion, sense of humor, courage, adventurousness, creativity, or the love that I have for people or that people have for me.

It doesn't tell you how it got there, what it has cost me, or who I may have been before it came to be. It's just there. It's not healthy. It's rarely fashionable. It takes a lot of energy and it still takes its toll on the rest of me. I don't embrace it, but I accept it. It doesn't define me.

I may have lost hundreds of pounds over my life through hard work, perseverance, and sacrifice, but they never put that on my pants size. I may be eating healthier than anyone you know and exercising several hours a day and if all you see is fat, you'll never see who I am or who I may become. 

Chubby face, meat wings, pudgy thighs, loose skin, beer belly, muffin top, wide load, cankles; swipe left. Not seen and yet gone. It's amazing and often disheartening that as big as I am, so few people can see me. Really see me beyond the blinders of social judgment. I didn't start off with fat. Few people do. Few people make a conscious decision to pack on the pounds or even double or triple their body weight as adults. Sometimes it is poor choices. Other times its circumstances, nurturing, genetics, accidents, injuries, emotional issues, disease, or other health problems. We hate Adipocytes, also known as lipocytes and fat cells, but without them, each and every one of us would die.

It's still socially acceptable to mock, ridicule, and condemn the obese so long as you don't do it at work or school. I've never heard anyone proclaim "Fat Lives Matter!". For that, I'm glad.  I'm not fat. I have fat. It's not me, it's extra me. It's not who or what I am. It doesn't define me. 

Brother, can you spare a fat cell?

#RockCowles #ACunningLinguist #Kowulz #Fattitude #fat #IHaveFat #FatLivesMatter

Saturday, August 15, 2020

Always Introduce Yourself


Hi, my name is Rock Cowles.

As I often do, I went out for dinner tonight with myself and a book. My waiter was a big burly young guy with a weightlifter physique and a bunch of decent tattoos and a pleasant demeanor. Other than his size, he had the potential to be utterly forgettable, because he never told me who he was. About halfway through my meal, I asked him if I could offer an observation and he agreed. I told him I had worked in a lot of different occupations including sales and managing businesses, and that he should always introduce himself, even if he was wearing a nametag (which he was not). By doing so, he becomes a person instead of a non-entity, or a restaurant fixture. I believe when you do this, not only do you become part of the customer's pleasant experience, but they will be more patient and tip better. They both realize that you aren't afraid of them and that you want them to enjoy their visit. I could see the light pop on in his head and he said, "I'm Seth."

I like to think I have good people skills. Overcoming various personal adversity and spending a lot of years observing people definitely contributed. Being a voracious reader and being exposed vicariously and through meandered down the road less traveled in real life to a lot of different environments and personality types has helped too. So has learning from my mistakes. If hindsight is 20/20 why do we make the same ones so many times?

I sold Chevy and Cadillacs in 1987 and my Sales Manager gave me a copy of the book, 
How to Sell Anything to Anybody by Joe Girard and Stanley H. Brown. It was a game-changer and is still very recommended. I still have the book and its sequel, How to Sell Yourself to Anyone. Joe was the Guinness Book of World Records' World's Greatest Salesman. Every interaction you will ever have with any other individual, bar none, is sales.

When I was a police officer the book, Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion, Updated Edition by George J. Thompson and Jerry B. Jenkins. I spent almost five years on the job. I had very few physical alterations and never had to hit, shoot, beat, or pepper spray anyone and I was a very active officer with an excellent arrest and conviction rate. I peaceably dealt with the same people my coworkers had to fight on a regular basis, but I utilized more tools and did so more effectively than many of them. I had a vested interest in helping people. Many of the tools in the book were invaluable. So were sales techniques and the magic phrase, "I can understand that."

Our job here is to be a part of something bigger than ourselves. To interact and to leave the world a better place then we found it. We don't need fancy titles or degrees to mentor people and it can and should happen anywhere and everywhere. It's easy to complain about the ignorance and entitlement of Today's youth. It's even easier to connect and try to be helpful and bring us closer together instead of dividing us as individuals and as a nation further apart.

My name is Dave "Rock" Cowles. Thank you for reading my blog today.

Thursday, May 14, 2020


BOHICAWOCKY, The Second Amendment, The Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms, Federal Firearms Licenses, and Concealed Carry Weapons Permits.

If a state reciprocates with mine for concealed carry permits, why should I still need a federal FFL CHECKPOINT to buy, sell, or trade a firearm with someone in or from that state? Why is it so much cheaper for a dealer to ship a firearm to an FFL holder than it is for Joe Citizen to do it legally and "properly"?

How does the guy an hour away in North Carolina keeping the P365 XL that I want and me keeping the P365 that he wants in South Carolina keep anyone safer? I'm closer to his location than I am to over 90% of my state and I can legally carry my pistol in his. We have both gone through extensive background checks to get our permits.

When will this blatant infringement of our natural rights and second amendment rights be addressed and ended?

#polymerpistols #acunninglinguist #2A #CWP #concealedcarry #concealedcarrypermit #ATF #FFL #kowulz #BOHICAWOCKY

Monday, October 14, 2019

My Burger for a Kingdom

Burger King has been busy lately. I usually don't frequent their establishments, but wanted to try their two newest endeavors; The meatless Impossible Whopper and the Pretzel Bacon King. The Impossible Whopper was totally unconvincing, highly overpriced, and to say it was mediocre would be a great kindness. From the first bite, the taste and texture were way off. I've never experienced a slimy aftertaste before, yet they somehow managed to put it in there.

The Pretzel Bacon King was the absolute best burger I have had at any restaurant, bar none, not just fast food, in decades. A little heavy on the mustard, but the pretzel bun was exquisite, the burger tasty and juicy, and the bacon was as bacony as bacon can be. I hope they will have the wisdom to make it a permanent choice on their menu.
Burger King #deathtomeat #carnivoreforlife #burgerking #impossiblewhopper #pretzelbaconking

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