I think as bright people, there is somewhat of a universal expectation that we will always be right, and we somewhat expect it of ourselves and get frustrated when we are wrong. A lot of the time you are only right until you have more information! I had a counselor ask me once if I would rather be right or be happy? Intellectually, being happy seems more important, but emotionally, I often responded to situations, whether induced by others or myself, doing my utmost to be right, often at any cost.
Its very liberating to be able to say, "I don't know." Perhaps even more so to realize I often don't even need to know, even a little bit. I am not autonomous and never will be, despite my struggles to be as self reliant as possible.
Some great books with many great tools;
Who Moved my Cheese? by Spencer Johnson
Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer
Pulling Your Own Strings by Wayne Dyer
Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins
A New Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis
Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
I'm Ok, You're Ok by Thomas A. Harris
A New Pair of Glasses by Chuck "C" (Chamberlain)
The Buddha Walks into a Bar: A Guide to Life for a New Generation by Lodro Rinzler
Only YOU can empower yourself!
I hope you find something you can use and to hear from you soon.
Dave "Rock" Cowles