Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?

I think as bright people, there is somewhat of a universal expectation that we will always be right, and we somewhat expect it of ourselves and get frustrated when we are wrong. A lot of the time you are only right until you have more information! I had a counselor ask me once if I would rather be right or be happy? Intellectually, being happy seems more important, but emotionally, I often responded to situations, whether induced by others or myself, doing my utmost to be right, often at any cost.

Its very liberating to be able to say, "I don't know." Perhaps even more so to realize I often don't even need to know, even a little bit. I am not autonomous and never will be, despite my struggles to be as self reliant as possible.

Some great books with many great tools;

Who Moved my Cheese? by Spencer Johnson

Your Erroneous Zones by Wayne Dyer

Pulling Your Own Strings by Wayne Dyer

Unlimited Power by Anthony Robbins

A New Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis

Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

I'm Ok, You're Ok by Thomas A. Harris

A New Pair of Glasses by Chuck "C" (Chamberlain)

The Buddha Walks into a Bar: A Guide to Life for a New Generation by Lodro Rinzler

Only YOU can empower yourself!

I hope you find something you can use and to hear from you soon.

Dave "Rock" Cowles

Why Won't God Heal Amputees?

Not having been raised in a religious home and indoctrinated from an early age, I've often wondered how "otherwise seemingly intelligent people" could be religious? Statistically, very few adults are converted without some major trauma in their life. I spent five years as a fundamentalist Christian. I had to shelve a lot of my doubts and questions to have any comfort level with my new "belief system". The more I studied, read apologetics, and asked questions, the less convinced I became. I have been an Ignostic Agnostic Atheist for seven years or so now.

I still miss the fellowship and promises of a better afterlife on rare occasion, but most of the time, I am glad to not be suffering delusions.

There never seem to be truly open debates on Christianity (or other religions) and I have gotten where I generally just shy away from them as long as people stay out of my face.

One of the best skeptic web sites I found was http://whywontgodhealamputees.com. If you value reason, logic, and reality, it is well worth a good look.

At http://whywontgodhealamputees.com/video10.htm you'll find a video; 10 questions that every intelligent Christian must answer. I have not seen one Xian answer a single one of the questions in an intelligent or convincing manner following the rules of logic (http://www.simplyquality.org/Logic.htm). I'd love to see one or more do so. Most will never even try.


"Fly, be free!" - Mork from Ork